Children are uniquely gifted from the day they enter this world. Each child has a very special part in our world…they are a piece of a great big puzzle. As parents, grandparents, family and friends, we have a chance to help the children in our lives to develop their gifts. How do we do this? I don’t think there is one perfect answer. There are many great resources. The first step, I believe, is to understand your child’s love language. There are several tests online to help. Some children need word of affirmation, others like hugs and high fives…no matter what…each child is so special. Learn to love the children in your lives completely. Your love and support will help them navigate this great big world.
As parents, our weekends can become filled up with activities quickly. Don’t forget to be intentional about “downtime.” Family Game Nights are a fun way to unwind and laugh together as a family. No matter what, put away your electronic devices and have fun together!
Isn’t this the question we all want to answer? What is the best way to love our children? I have found that Gary Smalley’s book, Five Love Languages of Children, to be a tremendous resource in raising children. The book speaks of how each of us receive love in different ways.
Sometimes, we affirm children with words, and they want to be hugged. We affirm with hugs, and they want to be served. Understanding that each child has a language in which they best respond to love, that is key! In my experience as a mom and teacher, I have found that it is best to meet children right where they are; then, they can grow to be the very best version of themselves.
When is the last time you had an impromptu dance party with your kids? I highly encourage you to give it a try! Crank up your music today and dance your heart out. You should probably bring back a few moves from your past! I promise it will bless your family big time…and the laughter…well, it may be at your expense! You’ve still got it, Mom! I just know it!
Today, I would like to encourage you to take a moment and think of the characteristics in your child that make him or her special. I think we know the characteristics in our hearts…but, it’s time to make a list!
When you write down the special characteristics in your child, it will help you be intentional in the way that you parent. Maybe your child is really good at encouraging others…speak that gift into his or her life. “I saw the way that you encouraged Noah today when he was having trouble writing his name. You are great at encouraging others…that is one of your special traits.”
So many of our words mold and shape our children. Be intentional in pointing out the qualities that set them apart in a positive way.
As parents, we are given such a short amount of time to try to teach our children everything that we want them to know. It’s so funny, we put so much pressure on ourselves…and really, it’s in the little moments that our children learn so much.
Have you ever tried to learn something new with your children? I am terrified of heights…like super scared…so last week, I put myself in a very vulnerable situation. I signed my youngest son and myself up for our local ropes course.
He thought it was the worst idea ever…he promised me it would be no fun at all. However, I ignored him (like we all have to do sometimes, right?!). We arrived at the ropes course, and it hit me…oh my goodness…I forgot I was terrified of heights.
Immediately, I began to agree with my son…this was the WORST IDEA EVER! Instead, I looked at him and said, “you know I’m scared, right?” He said, “It’s going to be ok mom.”
So many times, we want to teach our children something new…but imagine the confidence and leadership skills we can instill when we give our children the chance to teach us.
My tip for learning something new:
Let your child teach you something new…it will be a blessing to you both!